Re: Becoming my mother/Wendy

[rayilynlee <rayilynlee@xxxxxxx>]

Wendy

My mother always had to fill the void if no one talked.  In fact in my
family, you had to butt in to
be heard, a very rude practice. My dad really fixed her, in their later
years he refused to talk at all.

As a young person I was very shy and afraid to speak.  Teaching changed all
that. However, I may be "becoming my mother" filling those voids.  "nobody
says anything" sounds just like her.  Her father, the one with PD,used to
argue just for the sake of argument and  he and I used to do it all the
time.  He made me so mad but I enjoyed it and did it anyway.

The question of nature and nurture is an interesting one.

Back in the 70's or 80's there was a psychologist or psychiatrist who was
run out of town at UCLA/Westwood for teaching a course where his theory or
plan for better coping with life was lowering one's expectations.  He 
taught
that if you expected less you wouldn't be so disappointed.

Although I believe he had a valid point, I think we do live in a culture 
and
time of  "a revolution of rising expectations".  It's just not politically
correct to be negative no matter what, of this I am positive.  Kind of like
that Monty Python movie where the knight keeps fighting even though all his
limbs are cut off.

Ray
----- Original Message -----
From: "Wenwolf" <wenwolf@xxxxxxx>
To: <PARKINSN@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Saturday, April 23, 2005 10:39 AM
Subject: Re: a few more ideas


> Ray:
> That's something no one can accuse either of us of, eh? :)
> I think that letting people know what is on your mind is so much better
> than holding it in until you have a meltdown.
>
> Wendy
>
> -----Original Message-----
> ...  Most people just don't say
> > anything
> > and their senses of humor are pretty lame.
> > Ray
>
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